Have you ever had one of those summers where your weekends are more filled with wedding events than vacation? Yeah us, too. One of the most fun but also potentially anxiety-ridden events of the wedding circus can be the bachelorette party. Whether you’re planning or attending, you’re likely accounting for a mix of old friends, new friends, siblings and in-laws of the bride. Packing all of those personalities in a tight schedule of events can be overwhelming and that’s why we’ve come up with our Do’s and Don’ts for bachelorette party planning.
It’s possible to walk into restaurants and bars with six people or less, but with more people than that, you’re likely going to have to provide a credit card for the reservation and select from a prix fixe menu.
Do: Go! Not only is it an honor to be selected as one of the bride’s VIPs, but chances are if you are that close with the bride, you’re going to have similar interest and commonalities with at least some of the other gals.
Don’t: Flake last minute. These commitments should be taken seriously. Plus, it will make the wedding THAT much more fun because you’ll have shared experiences and more time under your belt with more people at the wedding. Unless something serious comes up, make the trip.
Do: Plan ahead! If you’re the MOH (maid of honor) and tasked with planning the weekend, there are a lot of things to consider when it comes to scheduling a weekend full of events for a group. The larger your bachelorette party group is, the more you’ll need to plan in advance. It’s possible to walk into restaurants and bars with six people or less, but with more people than that, you’re likely going to have to provide a credit card for the reservation and select from a prix fixe menu.
Don’t: Do it all yourself! The purpose of the weekend is to get the bride’s biggest supporters in one place, so take advantage of that goodwill! Once you have a general idea of what you want to do, tap the other attendees for help in executing those plans.
Pro tip: Create a section for people to add their Venmo accounts so that when the time comes, you know where to find each other to handle payment.
Do: Communicate! It’s important to have a cadence of communication so that everyone is aware of what’s going on and when. We recommend the following schedule:
- Kick-off email announcing the destination and date. This is also a great way to find out who can attend. If it’s helpful, give a deadline for when you need to know who will be attending the bachelorette party.
- Schedule of Events Nail down the plans at least a month in advance and be sure to send a schedule of events and expected associated costs (note, leave the bride off this one so she doesn’t have to worry about the financials, all she should be consumed with is the fun!).
- Pre-Party: About a week before, we recommend sending a final email to get people excited and include any important reminders.
Don’t: Overdo it! Everyone has busy lives these days, and you don’t want to spam your guests with unnecessary information and create bachelorette party email fatigue, so keep the points of communication clear, concise, and only when necessary.
Do: Stay organized! We recommend creating a Google doc for your party attendees to keep track of contact information and arrival/departure information. Pro Tip: Create a section for people to add their Venmo accounts so that when the time comes, you know where to find each other to handle payment.
Don’t: Fall apart if not everything goes as planned. When traveling in a group, there are a lot of dynamics to consider and it’s hard to make everyone happy. Try to remember that the ultimate reason you are there is for the bride to celebrate with her nearest and dearest.
Do: Note dietary needs. It seems like every other day there’s a new zone diet or food group people are avoiding. Especially if you are selecting from a prix fixe menu, be sure to check with the bachelorette party group on dietary restrictions or needs.
Don’t: Plan a meal around one person’s preference. Even if the bride is vegan, chances are the majority of the group is not. Play it safe in the middle and make sure there are options for all.
Do: Plan ahead for payment! In a large group, if you can swing it, the easiest solution is to have one person pick up the tab at each group event, and divvy up the total per person spend after. Pro tip: Take photos of the receipts so it doesn’t matter if you lose the paper version!
Don’t: Try to split a meal with 10 cards. It’s awkward, takes time away from the fun stuff, and will be a nightmare to figure out what everyone owes at the end.
Regardless of where you have your bachelorette party or how many people attend, remember why you are there – to celebrate this momentous occasion for your loved one, and enjoy some good girl time!
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